Well, again, it's been a while. I'd like to start out by saying to all of my friends and family: I'm so sorry you haven't heard much from me lately. I owe many of you thank you cards, emails, and calls, and I've been horrible at all of it. BUt it's not because I don't appreciate all of you. I'm just having trouble finding time for things that don't seem imminent. Horrible excuse, hence my apology. My December resolution is to change all of that.
I'm working now. So far, I love it. I really do. I'm surrounded by smart, ambitious, kind, and supportive people. Because my firm is not hierarchical, there isn't a ton of cut-throat competition. Everyone seems pretty keen on supporting their peers, which is exactly the kind of place I want to be. And I've befriended several women with small children (there are only a few of us, unfortunately), and that has been very helpful as well.
My girls are fantastic. Eliana is sleeping over at a friend's house tonight. She is just so grown up now. I bought a Christmas dress for her last night, and when she tried it on today I got tears in my eyes. She is turning into a beautiful little lady. Smart, too. She's turning into a puzzle fanatic, and is way better at it than I think is normal for someone her age. She has two 100-piece puzzles so well learned, she can do them by herself in about 45 minutes or less. She's learning to read, and is doing quite well. She loves to learn, and I'm pretty sure she is going to LOVE school.
Meron is adorable, and is on the verge of walking. I'll post a few pictures of both of them. She is just so sweet, and such a cuddle-bunny. It's very nice, I must admit, to have a baby who likes to cuddle. Eliana had no time for cuddling, as that took time away from running around, and with her head on my chest she was bound to miss something huge. Meron seems to understand that she can spend a few minutes cuddled up to mama and still manage to catch most of what is going on around her. Thank god, because it's awesome.
There's been quite a lot of debate on the ethics of adoption; ironically enough it's been happening a bunch on an Ethiopian adoption listserv I'm a part of. Most of the people on the message board have already adopted, or are waiting for referrals, but they are debating the ethics of the whole process. I understand the questions - adoption, especially international adoption, is fraught with ethical grey areas and inequalities. That being said, I'm now at the point where I cannot see my adoption of Meron as a bad, or even questionable thing. I can debate and address the enormous societal, global, and racial issues contributing to Ethiopia's poverty, gender inequality, and inability to support millions of their children. And I will continue to seek ways to help Ethiopia become stronger as a nation so that fewer children are forced to leave their families of origin. That being said, I love Meron so much that I cannot see adopting her as the wrong decision. I'm officially blinded to the debate where my daugher is concerned. I can address it on an intellectual level, but please do not question me about my decision to adopt from Ethiopia, because I cannot hold the debate with an open mind, as I will never reconsider the wisdom behind my decision to mother such an amazing, adorable, and beautiful little girl.
Good night everyone. I hope to write again soon. In the meantime, here are a few more pictures.